This is the thought I’ve been sitting with today (and I’m thinking I might want to sit with it for longer, because it’s a bit of a paradigm shift).
Tony Robbins says the quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our questions.
The funny thing about a question like “what if you were enough?”, though, is the temptation to give a knee-jerk answer.
“Of course, I’m good enough.”
“No, not ever.”
Or some shade in between.
I’m going to go out on a limb and say we’ve all felt inadequate or unworthy of some thing or person, at one time or another.
Either way, I’m starting to see that the quality of our questions is also determined by the quality of our answers.
The question set forth here isn’t meant to be answered quickly. It’s meant to be pondered and contemplated. Because that’s where its value is found.
Here are just some of the answers that started coming to me as I’ve been contemplating this question today:
- If I were enough, I would allow myself to rest when I need to rest.
- If I were enough, I wouldn’t force growth upon myself. I would still feed my mind, but I would allow the transformation to unfold however it wants to unfold.
- If I were enough, I wouldn’t try to look right, impress someone, or worry about what others think. I would do what I want to do because I want to do it.
- If I were enough, I would give myself permission to do the things I want to do, because I want to do them. I would allow myself to fail, too.
- If I were enough, I would not limit myself arbitrarily (our “limitations” are always arbitrary!).
- If I were enough, I might quit certain projects and pick up others.
And that made me think…
My life might be quite a bit different if I thought I were enough.
It can be different. Starting tomorrow even. It can transform.
And, as I move into reflection over the course of the next couple of weeks, I doubt I will return the same.
Big picture, I intend to create from a space of “I am enough” and not “I’m not enough.” Because what I create from “not enough” is not a true reflection of who I am, what I’m capable of, or what I desire to create in the world. It’s not what I stand for.
Creating from “not enough” has brought more “not enough” into my business and life.
For now, I’ve understood that I don’t need to judge “not enough.” I don’t need to survive or fix it. I only need to sit with it. Love it.
Because it’s not my identity. It’s not who I am. I have always been, and always will be, bigger than any thought or emotion I’ve had.
But there’s nothing wrong with the thought or emotion. I can be with it. Love it. Surrender it. And that’s all that’s required of me.
Shh… Don’t tell anyone. Only the cool kids are talking about it.
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