Conventional wisdom says you need to do, have, and be to get anything in life.
First, act. Second, get. Third, have.
But if you’ve read enough personal development and spiritual books, then you know it works the other way around – be, have, and do.
The only problem is that this can seem a little abstract in practical reality.
What we must do is visualize and stand in the possibility of the outcome we’re creating. And we need to make that mental image as vivid as possible, with people, sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touch. Most importantly, conversations! What words would be exchanged standing in the outcome you’re creating?
“We did it!”
That much you already know.
What we want to do with that visualization is be abundantly clear on what it looks like to be it. To be the transformation. We’re not trying to get anything yet. We’re just looking to understand how we can create that outcome as a way of being. Because you can be that now. And that way of being is going to produce the outcome.
Be, and then the having and doing will sort itself out.
We didn’t necessarily choose our lenses, because it has a lot to do with encounters in early childhood and what we made those events mean.
In layman’s terms, our lenses can be summed up as confirmation bias.
Everywhere we go, everything we do, we’re always out to prove that our lenses are right – even when there’s no inherent value, advantage, or benefit.
My lens? That I don’t matter.
I came face to face with this lens today, while in conversation with my coach. And I can see its presence everywhere. What I didn’t notice before, I now see clearly, and I can’t un-see it.
I can see that I’ve gone through life with this lens and have only found more and more reasons to confirm it with every new task, program, project, business, community, or relationship I take on. I’ve collected a mountain of evidence for my lens.
In the coming weeks, I will be disappearing this lens with my coach.
What lens is running your life? What have you collected a mountain of evidence for?
Today marks the final day of the first quarter of the yearlong leadership program I’ve taken on.
Many of my thoughts and reflections are contained in the blog posts I’ve published over the course of the last two months or so.
My life has indeed transformed in the last two months. More so than I thought possible.
I did so many things kicking and screaming.
And I did so many other things diligently and faithfully to the point of exhaustion.
My two-week working vacation in Calgary ended up being essential. I don’t know where I’d be without it.
But the most amazing thing that came out of the program was bar none my team.
As I look forward to a new quarter, I’m reflecting on the results achieved and not achieved. Things completed and not completed. What I would like to accomplish next. And I am excited about the possibilities.