Things do fall apart from time to time.
Sometimes we even go through extended periods where it seems like everything is falling apart.
Are we cursed? Is it something we did? Does God or the Universe hate us? Are we just unlucky?
These questions are inevitable. Because we have a sense of where we think life is going and where we want it to go. We’ve seen real life fairytales and we want that for ourselves.
And even though we’ve asked, we’ve prayed, we’ve visualized, we’ve meditated, we’ve worked, we’ve felt our way into better feeling spaces, it all appears an exercise in futility. Instead of our wishes being fulfilled, we’re met with more adversity. It never seems to work like the books say it should.
We don’t need a better book or a better God. We need a better context for things falling apart.
Fictional character Ted Mosby (of How I Met Your Mother) said:
Sometimes things have to fall apart to make way for better things…
In Mark 2:22, Jesus said:
And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. If he does, the wine will burst the skins – and the wine is destroyed, and so are the skins. But new wine is for fresh wineskins.
When things fall apart, it may seem as though you’re going backwards. At times, the unfolding may even strike you as devastating.
But you can’t get to where you want to go without facing some challenges (though challenges are fundamentally a creation).
If it must fall apart, let it. If you’ve done everything in your power to save whatever was worth saving, surrender. There is nothing left to do. Obsessing over the details won’t add a second to your life.
There is always something waiting on the other side of whatever falls apart. It may not be exactly what you wanted, or what you expected, but it’s waiting for you. You can’t put new wine into old wineskins. It’s time to expand. You’re to have a new container, not the old, worn one.
Celebrate when something falls apart. You’re in for a promotion.
And when life is in upheaval, be prepared to let go and embrace the process.