What were you meant to do? What is your purpose or mission? What is your identity?
These are much harder questions to answer when you don’t feel as though anything you’ve done to this point has met your expectations.
Success is yours to define, to be sure. But even then, it’s going to come down to whether you feel you’ve measured up to the vision you’ve created for yourself.
You can keep moving the goalpost, but all that does is reinforce your adult-sized dream – full of constraints and limitations.
It is healthy to accept that you might not become an NBA star when you’re 5’9’’, 40 lbs. overweight and 39 years old? Absolutely.
But should you admit defeat in the face of what you already know to be possible? What if a bit of elbow grease and persistence could bring your goal within reach?
Wouldn’t moving the goalpost, then, be a soft admission of defeat?
We’re always trying to balance everything out – impact, fulfillment, gratification, finances, material things, and more.
But I wonder whether we do this because it’s authentic to who we are, or because we think we’ll appear nobler, more honorable creatures for having something other than our own advancement in mind.
Is it possible we spend far too much time caring about how we’re going to come across to others?
If you want money and material things, wouldn’t it be best to admit this to yourself?
It’s not as though you’re not going to realize how ultimately empty that pursuit is. But you can’t shortchange that experience because it could be a valuable one. It might ultimately lead to your spiritual ascension.
We all know that money doesn’t buy happiness. But to know what that even means, we might first need to experience wealth.
This goes for everything else, be it relationships, travel, entertainment, or otherwise. Because on some level nothing will ever satisfy. And that’s fine.
The point is, can you admit to yourself what you are truly about? Are you willing to be vigilant about establishing clarity of purpose?
Further, why do we feel balance is so important? Nobody would call Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, or Oprah Winfrey “balanced.” They’ve achieved what they’ve achieved because they were out of balance.
Maybe trying to balance everything out is the wrong approach. Maybe it makes you a Jack or Jill of all trades and master of none.
We can’t have all the answers, no matter how long we’ve been chasing a version of reality we want for ourselves. We can’t take for granted that we know our mission or purpose. If anything, it’s only becoming incrementally clearer by the day. And that’s if we’re even paying attention to it in the first place.
It’s easy to arrive at a sense of purpose about yourself. But a successful business always adds values to others. It’s easy to create a mission for your community. But you will not have a community if others aren’t involved.
Reducing everything down to a mission statement and reciting it daily is not enough. In time, it will become little more than a mantra.
Perhaps we can gain a greater sense of clarity around these questions if we were to meet our immediate needs. Because if we had more flexibility and freedom, we’d have time and energy to contemplate the impact and difference we want to make in the world.
Some people figure themselves out relatively early in life.
But many others don’t even know what they want to do or what they’re passionate about until later.
This is not a matter of right or wrong.
Age should not even factor into the equation when it comes to fulfilling on a purpose.
In my estimation, you are about as old as you make up your mind to be.
I’ve seen 60-year-olds that look like 30-year-olds, and I’ve seen 30-year-olds that look like 60-year-olds.
The question is, do you want to be on this thrilling roller-coaster ride? Do you want to experience all that life has to offer? Do you want to experience more?
Or do you say to yourself, “I’m 40. I’ve lived. There’s nothing left for me to experience. It’s all downhill from here.”
I know people who feel like they’re just getting started as a 40-year-old. They’ve found something to be passionate about. Something that excites them. Something that gives them life.
People get too fixated on youth. They look at someone younger and say, “they are the future,” and yet equip them with nothing that will give them a leg up in being a better leader than they were. What kind of legacy is that?
Some people take themselves right out of the game because they think they’re too old. What kind of message is that sending to the youth? That they should give up when they’ve reached some arbitrary age too?
Change is constant. That’s the one thing we can count on.
It’s not that we are insignificant. It’s that with repetition and constant programming, we can be convinced that we are insignificant. We’re constantly being told we are in subtle, and in less than subtle ways.
You are important, no matter how unimportant you feel. The world would not be the same without you.
So, what are you too old for? Italian sculptor Michelangelo was said to have lived to the ripe old age of 88 because he had a purpose. Something important to fulfill on.
What is your purpose? What do you have to fulfill on?
Shh… Don’t tell anyone. Only the cool kids are talking about it.
That might be a bit of an understatement. What they usually say is:
“You need to write an article about that!”
“Have you written an article about that?”
Well, there are too many moments like that to count. So, capturing the idea, in text or audio form, as quickly as possible, has become the standard procedure here.
The following audio/video is much more powerful in context of the conversation that was being had. But it still encapsulates something critical – that there aren’t necessarily more secrets to learn, only more challenges to rise to.
When the universe sees us rising to those challenges instead of resisting them, it can bring us to the next part of our journey. And that can take a long time to learn, but it’s worth it.
Recognize that the universe is always on your side, taking you on the shortest, most direct path to what you want. The only thing the universe didn’t promise is that the path would somehow be easy.
The thing that we often do that’s not true is that “oh, there’s a secret, and then there’s a secret behind the secret.” It’s not that.
Just feel good now. Feel as good as you possibly can. Every experience should be pleasurable, and fun, and enjoyable. And then you know you’re in alignment with your purpose, your identity, your person – everything you were meant to do in this world and the difference you were meant to make.
When every experience is pleasurable, like Christmas eve and you know there’s going to be presents the next morning. Then you know you are perfectly in alignment with you.
This doesn’t mean there aren’t uncomfortable experiences. It doesn’t mean there aren’t challenges to rise to. In fact, those challenges are just letting you know that that’s what’s next. That’s what you’ve got to do now.
The universe is so good at letting you know, “Hey, this is what’s next. It’s uncomfortable. It doesn’t feel good right now. If you just jump over this hurdle though, massive breakthrough lies on the other side.”
Shh… Don’t tell anyone. Only the cool kids are talking about it.