Being a Clearing for Others

Being a Clearing for Others

Today I spent roughly 7.35 hours on calls and meetings.

Yep. That’s about the length of the average workday (and most people are only effective for about three hours…).

I was committed to being on a 30-minute coaching call and three-hour training session, as well as a call with a mentor, so I was adequately prepared for these commitments.

What I wasn’t expecting was what happened in the margins – mainly conversations with classmates and friends.

Were there calls I didn’t have to pick up? Yes.

But I’m standing from a space of new possibilities, for the people around me, as well as the impact and contribution I’m making in the world.

I used to avoid texts, emails, and calls like the plague – streamlining communication to the extent that life would allow. Forcing it into the borders of life so I could focus on… productivity, apparently.

The insanity of trying to do things that way has really sunk in for me in the last couple of days. I realized I’d taken things about as far as I could at the level of leadership I was operating at (and that’s a subject worthy of further discourse).

Today, I chose to be a clearing for people. Listening to their challenges. Relating to them. Offering coaching if it was appropriate or applicable. Putting people first because I care, and because they’re worth it. Their experiences aren’t insignificant, especially to them.

In a way, I’m coming to see that not interacting with people is more exhausting. Forcing myself to sit at a desk and write, design, and create for hours is more exhausting than not. Some people are made for that, and I look up to them. I can do it, but I don’t know how much life it injects into my day.

I do feel tired. But it’s 11:01 PM and I’m about to wind down for the day. What I can tell you is that I don’t feel like I usually do after a full day of writing, designing, and creating. That is a different kind of tired.

Although the leadership program I’m in is the furthest thing from comfortable, I’m amazed by how much I’m already discovering for myself – in terms of prioritization, time, numbers, and more.

I can’t imagine 7.35 hours on the phone or in Zoom will be a daily occurrence, but I do need to make sure I’ve got enough time to do my work as well… 😅

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069 – Pressing into the “Why?”

Does it seem like people repeatedly ask you why you’ve chosen your career path? Do they think you should be doing something else with your life?

In this episode of The New Music Industry Podcast, I share why it’s important to press into the “why?”

Podcast Highlights:

  • 00:14 – Todays’ topic
  • 00:28 – What I’ve realized about being multitalented
  • 01:26 – A sign you’re on the right path
  • 01:51 – Is there anything people are telling you not to do?
  • 02:15 – Evaluating and reevaluating your direction
  • 02:42 – The problem with trying to satisfy everyone

Transcription:

When you saw the title for this podcast episode, you probably assumed it would be about motivation. You’re partially right. What I really want to dig into to today has to do with what people say about the projects you’re working on.

As I did a bit of reflecting on one of my famous late-night walks recently, I realized something important. If you’re a multi-talented person, there’s a good chance someone will say something along these lines at one point or another. “What are you doing, and why are you doing it?”

I’ve certainly had people say that to me before. I think it’s because over the years I’ve developed many skills and talents. I also happen to be bilingual. So, it would be easy for people to say I should be doing one thing over another. Some people say I should be dedicating most of my time to music. Others say I should take up a job as a translator.

Whenever people used to say things like that I would take a close look at what I was doing to evaluate whether it was serving me. And honestly, I probably spent too much time thinking about it and worrying about what other people thought of me.

Now don’t get me wrong. People are typically well-meaning when they question your direction, because they see your potential. It feels good when other people see your potential and think you might be good at a variety of things. But now I’ve realized questions like this may actually be a sign you’re on the right path as opposed to being on the wrong one.

Ultimately, only you can know what your reasons are for doing what you do. In my case, there are a lot of people that thought I should probably just be making more music, which is something I did a lot of over the course of 12 years or more. But I wanted to write books and build a business. So naturally, I think a lot of people looked at me a little bit weird when I said that was my vision and goal.

Take a moment and ask yourself. Is there something you’re doing right now that people are telling you not to do? Your business, or music career perhaps? Is there something else they think you should be doing with your life as opposed to that project?

Maybe you are at a crossroads and you need to reevaluate, but maybe, just maybe you’re already on the right path and it would actually be a waste of time for you to think too deeply on this. I’m not saying it’s not worth looking at your direction from time to time, and I would suggest doing this at least yearly. But constantly questioning your direction can erode your self-confidence and cause you to lose focus, so you need to ask yourself if it’s worth paying that price.

I now realize if I had stopped building my business I would never be presented with the opportunities I have today. The Music Entrepreneur HQ is growing fast. Had I quit on this path, I would not see the blessings I now see in my life.

If you’re doing things that appear to satisfy everyone you know, you may be on the wrong path altogether. When you’re doing something that rocks the boat, sometimes that’s how you know you’re on to something. You don’t want to be neutral. You don’t want to be vanilla. You won’t stand out from the crowd. In a sense, you need to make people love you or hate you.

So, will you remain steadfast when others think you should be doing something else? Will you press into the “why” when others question you?

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