Have you ever thought of yourself as too young, too old, too smart, too dumb, too tall, too short, too big, too small, too experienced, too inexperienced, too sick, too tired…?
Every artist has some version of this going on, even the most successful people you know.
Many artists disqualify themselves from the success they desire for reasons they think are very sound but are usually anything but.
The only difference between you and your more successful counterpart is they have developed self-awareness to know when they’re pulling back when they should be pushing ahead.
If you’re making excuses for yourself in any capacity, you need to look at why that is. Is it habit? Did you learn it from someone? What has you looking for an “out” when you should be “in?”
I’m not kidding – do the inner work. Journal. Think. Reflect. Ask questions. Converse with a trusted friend or mentor. Notice where your excuses are coming from. They are coming from somewhere. Be willing to dig deep to identify the reasons, whether it’s learned behavior or trauma. And once you know the source, notice it whenever it comes up, so you aren’t stuck in repeating habitual behaviors. Empower yourself with the ability to take new actions where you would normally back out.
Read David J. Schwartz’ The Magic of Thinking Big in full and cure the failure disease – Excusitis.
Consider for a moment that this is true.
Is it crazy to think that everything you’ve experienced, everything you’re experiencing, and everything you’re going to experience is a result of what you’ve been thinking and feeling?
The thought gives me pause.
It would mean that everything I like reflects some part of me.
Likewise, it would mean everything I don’t like reflects some part of me also.
Everything I experience is a feedback mechanism, reflecting to me what I’ve been thinking and feeling.
And that reminds me to look closely at what I’ve been thinking and feeling. Because my view of the outer world is often limited. It often doesn’t look how I want it to look either.
Change is possible. But I can’t force change on the outer world. It doesn’t work that way.
What I can do is engage in inner work. Be in the discovery of what is having me see the world as I see it now. Declare completion over past events. Seek out opportunities to heal.
Trying to change others is a waste of time – they are reflecting you. You are meant to observe and be in the discovery of what part of you they are reflecting.
Forcing a change in yourself is also a waste of time. There is always an impact, and you end up adding to the baggage you’re already carrying. The question is what you’re going to do with that baggage.
You can lovingly and gently engage in inner work. This will change the outer world. But not by force. It will change because you’ve changed.
According to the mirror principle, everything that occurs outwardly is a manifestation of what’s going on inwardly.
What we see outwardly is mass hysteria. Division. Mistrust.
Some say we are facing a health crisis.
What we’re really facing is a crisis of identity. And that’s as result of what’s been going on inwardly.
For a long time, there’s been an aspect of ourselves we’ve been unwilling to face. Psychologically, it’s the part of you that you don’t want to admit to having. It’s your shadow side.
All this time spent in isolation and “lockdown” has brought that unconscious part of yourself forward. Try as you might, you can’t bottle it up or shove it back down.
And that causes discomfort.
But your job isn’t to change or even heal that shadow side. And projecting onto others isn’t productive either.
The truth is, you have always had a shadow side, and you always will.
The only thing you need to do is acknowledge it. Sit with it. Understand that it’s there for a reason. Learn to love it even.
Dismissing it, ignoring it, or trying to medicate it is only going to cause more inward turmoil. Remember – what manifests outwardly is a result of what’s going on inwardly.
You may have been able to keep it contained to this point. But we’re at a new crossroads now. Humanity is awakening.
If you have been feeling discomfort, then know that you will continue to feel it until you embrace your shadow self.
You may think that someone else is responsible for the ugliness you see in yourself. That’s not true, because you are the one witnessing it.
We are much too quick to label emotions as good or bad, when emotions are just human, and they are often pointing to something we need to face or pay more attention to.
A year ago, there was no urgency to engage your shadow self. Now, it’s urgent that you do.
Disclaimer: I am not a psychologist. If you need psychological help, please seek a qualified professional.
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