Getting it Dialed in

Getting it Dialed in

Life is flowing. Energy is moving. Blessings are closing in.

I’ve heard entrepreneurs talk about this phenomena before. And now I can recognize it when it shows up.

When everything feels like it’s dialed in, you’re not looking for ways to improve or optimize your routine. You’re looking for ways to stay consistent. Keep up what you’re doing because you know it’s working.

Many things in my life are getting dialed in. Some are in the process of getting dialed in (and they’re almost there – I can feel it!). And all I’m looking to do now is stay consistent.

I can’t say that I’ve never experienced flow like this before. But after years of stagnation, I honestly didn’t expect for it to show up again. I didn’t think it would change. Crazy how the human mind works. Crazy how easily we adapt to our personal hells.

I’m beyond grateful. And whatever crazy thing I’m doing that’s working, whatever is connecting with people, I want to keep doing it.

Closing the Chapter on 2021

Closing the Chapter on 2021

“You can declare completion with anything. You are the most powerful person in your world.”

As my coach took me through a completion exercise, I finally gained closure on sadness that had built up over the course of years, maybe even decades.

This wasn’t one of those high-priced, lay down on a black leather couch and regurgitate your life story over the course of months while paying through the nose for someone to listen to you kind of sessions. It was done rapidly, over the phone, in a manner of minutes.

Completion can happen that quickly.

As a champion of artists and an avid adventurer in search of new things that will support you on your journey, I prescribe a regimen of yearly closure, be it the method that follows (originally crafted by leadership trainer Michael Hyatt), or another. Either way, it will become an integral part of your yearly routine if you let it.

7 Questions to Close the Chapter on Another Year

These seven questions form the foundation of your thinking and reflection time and once completed, prevent you from dragging last year’s baggage into this year’s. Best not carry the stench of yesteryear into another, because 2022 doesn’t want to hear about 2021 anymore.

Use my answers as a starting point for generating your own.

If the last year were a movie in your life, what would the genre be?

Martial arts drama (like The Karate Kid). I signed up for a yearlong leadership program in June and completed two quarters. I’m currently in my third quarter.

Hours upon hours of calls, meetings, and work went into new initiatives like Elite Players: All Access Pass, Members Only Audios, The Music Entrepreneur Code – 2022 Edition, my forthcoming album, Back on Solid Ground, and the forthcoming book, The Music Entrepreneur Companion Guide. That’s still just scratching the surface.

It’s a bit of a blur looking back, so an 80s training montage seems appropriate, and it’s far more entertaining for the audience, too, in lieu of watching every painful pushup being knocked out.

What were the two or three major themes that kept recurring?

When I signed up for the yearlong leadership program, I enrolled in a rollercoaster ride, plain and simple. The program is designed to overwhelm with calls, meetings, and requests. At times, I dragged my feet like a whiny and spoiled child looking for an escape, at times embracing and rising to the challenge of a full life – much fuller than I ever thought possible.

Another major theme is that of rediscovering my passion and purpose. And I see now my inner performer is breathing a prolonged, silent death as the world succumbs to insane, irrational, draconian restrictions hatched by scheming elites and politicians who are bent on collapsing the economy to replace it with a better system of slavery.

I will never be fulfilled just being a writer, marketer, and entrepreneur. And I will never be fulfilled just being a musician. The two are inseparable, and they make my world go around. The performer in me is starving for an outlet.

What did you accomplish this year that you are most proud of?

What do you feel you should have been acknowledged for but weren’t?

I have received acknowledgement in virtually area of life, except for:

  • In my continued efforts to champion artistic success
  • In implementing and following a new exercise and diet program – results forthcoming

What disappointments did you experience this past year?

  • I’m thoroughly disappointed in the hundreds of musicians who come to my websites, and don’t believe in themselves enough to take the next step in their careers with a book, course, or coaching program. I don’t come cheap, but it’s a minimal investment for a lifetime of inspiration and results (i.e., “It’s all my fault, I suck at selling”).
  • I’m thoroughly disappointed in the young ladies who pass up an opportunity with one of the most desirable bachelors to ever exist (i.e., “It’s all my fault, I suck at dating”).

What was missing from last year as you look back?

Besides the above: Travel, food, fun, and performance were all missing to greater or lesser degrees.

What were the major life-lessons you learned this past year?

  • You can convince yourself that you can only stretch so far, only to discover that you can stretch much further. My plate is fuller than ever, but I’ve embraced the practice of moving multiple projects forward with great urgency.
  • Structure is good. Life feels like it’s moving when your calendar is full. You feel like a ship without a rudder when it isn’t.
  • You don’t rise to the challenge unless there’s a challenge to rise to. Whether it’s publishing daily or taking on an intensive yearlong leadership program, new challenges have presented themselves, causing me to rise higher.

Additional Resources

The best book on the topic, without a doubt, is Michael Hyatt’s Your Best Year Ever. His book will show you in clear detail how you can set yourself up to have an exceptional, powerful, life-affirming, goal-reaching year. I read it before meeting my mastermind group in Silverthore, CO in winter 2019, and it made it into the top three books I read in 2019.

My book, Start Your Year the Right Way, dives deeper into the various practices I have in my life to ensure I cause completion and set myself up for success each year. There are plenty (but not too many) prompts to guide your reflections and space enough to write down your answers.

You can also hire me as your coach at a premium, and if you wish to explore new possibilities together, get in touch. I don’t respond immediately to most emails but do prioritize potential clients.

Past Reflections

I have been consistent in sharing my reflections since 2014. Self-indulgent, perhaps, but if you found this reading valuable, you will find these articles beneficial also:

Closing the Chapter on 2014
Closing the Chapter on 2015
Closing the Chapter on 2016
Closing the Chapter on 2017
Closing the Chapter on 2018
Closing the Chapter on 2019
Closing the Chapter on 2020

Final Thoughts

Remember – completion is caused, not offered. No one can give it to you. You must seek it out and create it yourself. Any memories you continually cycle through in your mind are incomplete. Become present to the impact, and once you’re clear on all the ways it has affected you, declare it complete. You are the most powerful person in your world, and completion is yours to claim.

Completion

Completion

Today marks the final day of the first quarter of the yearlong leadership program I’ve taken on.

Many of my thoughts and reflections are contained in the blog posts I’ve published over the course of the last two months or so.

My life has indeed transformed in the last two months. More so than I thought possible.

I did so many things kicking and screaming.

And I did so many other things diligently and faithfully to the point of exhaustion.

My two-week working vacation in Calgary ended up being essential. I don’t know where I’d be without it.

But the most amazing thing that came out of the program was bar none my team.

As I look forward to a new quarter, I’m reflecting on the results achieved and not achieved. Things completed and not completed. What I would like to accomplish next. And I am excited about the possibilities.

What’s in the Way?

What’s in the Way?

Know it or not, there is something holding you back. Something all-pervasive. It’s been with you since you were young. And the longer you’ve lived with it, the more you’ve accepted it as the status quo. It’s the predominant way you view the world, and because of that, the results you get in life are largely determined by it. You may step outside of it on occasion, but like a momentary lapse, it never takes.

This is the lens through which you view life.

The lens through I which I view the world is something along the lines of:

The world is unsafe, and I’m not important.

Your lens is probably some other flavor of the same ice cream.

I’ve been sitting with this lens since yesterday when I had a conversation about it with my coach. I’ve been reflecting on the impact that this has had on my life.

Now, it’s easy to say, “it impacts everything,” and that would be true. But I’m also looking specifically at how it has impacted me. Without becoming present to its full impact, it’s hard to cause completion with it. And if I don’t cause completion with it, I will continue to live with the impact.

One thing I started to see was that this lens a) stops me from asking, or b) stops me from making powerful asks. Not always, and not every time. But much of the time.

Imagine a life restricted by requests not made, as well as requests not made in a way that’s gotten by others, or requests made in a way that doesn’t land for the people being asked.

This has produced a lot of ambiguity in life.

I’ve come far on this journey, and I’ve accomplished a great deal. But most of that has come without the active participation and agreement of others.

I’m glad I’m in a leadership and management program that’s having me confront what’s in the way. Because I know I will ultimately be able to rise higher faster and with purpose if I’m fully unleashed in communication.

So, here are some questions for you:

  • What is your all-pervasive lens of the world?
  • What impact has this lens had on your life? Don’t just look at the surface level. Dig deep and discover specifically what’s there for you.
  • How has your life been restricted to this point? What opportunities have you missed? If you were fully self-expressed, where could you have made a difference? Who could you have contributed to? Get present to the many ways you have been stopped in life.
  • Would you like to cause completion with this lens? Speculate on conversations you could have to drop your need to look good or avoid looking bad.

Take a moment to reflect.

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Dig Where You Don’t Want to Dig

Dig Where You Don’t Want to Dig

When presented with the choice of doing something hard or doing something easy, most people choose to do something easy.

It’s human.

And this tendency shows up everywhere in our lives, including things we aren’t complete with, and still need to deal with.

If you want to cause a breakthrough, you can’t keep chipping away at the easy. You can’t be satisfied with incremental improvement. You must confront the monster you’ve tried to keep behind closed doors.

Today, I was talking with a friend who wasn’t moving forward powerfully in her life.

So, I offered some coaching. It was difficult for her to dig where she didn’t want to dig. She’d been stuck in the same pattern for a long time.

When I could see plainly that she was capable of so much more, as someone who’s up to something in the world.

I knew that she didn’t really want to look at what I was pointing to. But I poked around a little anyway, knowing that it would hurt a little. Because the pain of not moving forward would surely be greater than dealing with whatever was there for her.

As she kept looking, she started to see what was there for her. Unsurprisingly, it had a lot to do with her childhood and upbringing.

Eventually, she saw why she wasn’t doing anything with the projects that were supposed to be so important to her.

That would not have happened if we had dealt with the surface. It happened because I kept digging, and ultimately, because she kept digging where she didn’t want to dig. I can’t take credit for the breakthrough. Only for the stand I’d made for her.

Stop looking for gold on the surface. It’s time to go deeper. That’s where the hard stuff is. And the hard stuff is where we have breakthroughs.

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