A Time for Change

A Time for Change

I recently shared about how I’ve been experiencing more flow in life.

But intuitively, I knew things were about to change in a major way.

No sooner did my weekend training session begin (for the yearlong leadership program I’m in) when my landlord texted me to announce that they would be selling the house.

After I shared the news with my mom, she said:

Always a challenge but there seems to be a right time for everything.

True, finding a new place to live and carrying through with a move isn’t my idea of fun.

But I immediately saw this as an opportunity.

An opportunity to be in conversation. To share with my friends what’s going on. To begin the search for a new place to call home, even if it is temporary.

I am a digital nomad, and I am set up to live a nomadic life. Sure, I’ve gotten a little fat in the last couple of years (not literally – I’ve been getting in much better shape in the last few months), but trimming the fat as a nomad is par for the course. Here we go again!

Too much comfort can grow stale, even the good kind of comfort. And when there’s no change in life, not only do I get bored, but I can also feel quite sad. I’m not inspired by that kind of life.

Ready or not, change is coming.

But it’s always what you make of it.

Your World Changes

Your World Changes

Based on the changes you’ve gone through.

It seems counterintuitive because focusing on yourself seems selfish.

But the world around you truly does improve when you improve.

We tend to get frustrated when others don’t change the way they look at us, especially when we’ve gone through transformation.

But we need to be careful. Sometimes, we’ve forgotten to change the way we look at others, because we’ve held them up as the problem for so long.

Return to an old situation with a new perspective, and you may be surprised to find the changes you’ve longed for have already taken place.

What I See for the Future of This Site

What I See for the Future of This Site

On July 28, I will have published daily for a full year.

And what a journey it’s been. I can’t wait to share everything that has transpired since I started down this road.

Of course, I’ve had a lot of thoughts on what I want to do next, whether I want to continue to flow my energies into publishing daily, and what the future of this site (DavidAndrewWiebe.com) will be.

So, here’s the picture I see forming.

What I’m Planning for DavidAndrewWiebe.com

I’m thinking about turning DavidAndrewWiebe.com into a news site of sorts.

I will continue to publish in-depth, high-quality articles on a variety of topics related to creativity and entrepreneurship, as I’ve already been, but I’ve been thinking about incorporating bits from social media, other blogs, tools I use, and more.

I can’t see myself creating all the content on my own, so I might ask other writers whether they’d like to see their posts on my site, hire writers, solicit guest writers, publish a higher volume of shorter pieces, or otherwise.

I guess what I’m saying is – I’m thinking about turning this into a magazine site, with articles, news items, audio (podcasts), visual content (Instagram, YouTube, etc.), and recommended products or resources.

Currently, the site doesn’t get enough traffic to benefit from ads, so I probably won’t be aggressive with advertising, and instead focus on creating banners promoting my own products and services. I will probably use these banners across my other sites too.

Why Turn DavidAndrewWiebe.com into a News Site?

I have other sites serving different functions.

Music Entrepreneur HQ is my music business authority site and home to my podcast. Although I might begin publishing a higher volume of content there, for the most part, I just want to focus on in-depth, high-quality authority content moving forward.

Content Marketing Musician is home to my courses and coaching programs. Ultimately, it will be developed as my membership site for independent musicians. At some point, I might begin creating content for Content Marketing Musician, but the membership site alone will be a significant undertaking, so that time might be a way off.

Which means I can use DavidAndrewWiebe.com and Music Entrepreneur HQ to direct traffic to Content Marketing Musician. This is basically what I’ve been doing so far, and so long as I stay on top of communicating what’s available, it seems to work.

I could leave DavidAndrewWiebe.com alone for a while, and focus on other projects, but I’ve already created some momentum here, so why not ride the wave?

How is This Complementary to Your Other Projects?

The great part about looking at my sites as separate but connected entities, is that they can each serve a different function in the overall mission of inspiring creatives and creators.

Yes, there’s still a heavy music focus. But I’ve also posted a lot of pieces that are creativity, personal development, spirituality, or entrepreneurship oriented on DavidAndrewWiebe.com – not to say that this content isn’t applicable to any creative or creator.

But that’s kind of the point. I can share with, and help a broader creative audience here on DavidAndrewWiebe.com, while serving the music community (a big passion of mine) at Music Entrepreneur HQ and Content Marketing Musician. I can write about anything I want, and no one’s going to look at me like I’ve got a third leg.

I can also develop and launch a series of products on topics I know a lot about to help the creative community at large (podcasting, self-publishing, digital marketing, advertising, social media, and so forth).

DavidAndrewWiebe.com can be a hub where people come to learn about the latest happenings and items of interest in my world, as well as the creative world at large.

Thoughts

Do you have any thoughts on the new direction?

Feel free to let me know!

Final Thoughts

Film director Woody Allen said:

If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans.

Well, let’s just say that, if I find the need to course correct again, it wouldn’t be the first time God has laughed at my plans.

Either way, I’m excited to see how my projects are going to evolve, and the impact and difference they can make for creatives and creators just like you.

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Life Transitions, Day 15: Conclusion

Life Transitions, Day 15: Conclusion

He began a new series. At first, he thought it may have been ill-conceived.

He wondered if anyone would interrupt and simply say, “stop – go back to working on something you know.”

But that never happened.

And, in only a few days, he found his voice. Which allowed him to persevere and bring the series to a conclusion.

This is Life Transitions. Welcome to day 15.

Life Transitions Series

Here are the links to the other stories in the series:

Life Transitions, Day 1 (Introduction)
Life Transitions, Day 2: Resistance
Life Transitions, Day 3: Jobs & Careers
Life Transitions, Day 4: Location
Life Transitions, Day 5: Relationships
Life Transitions, Day 6: When the Sandcastle Crumbles
Life Transitions, Day 7: Recovery
Life Transitions, Day 8: Pivots
Life Transitions, Day 9: Injury
Life Transitions, Day 10: Illness
Life Transitions, Day 11: Disaster
Life Transitions, Day 12: Upheaval
Life Transitions, Day 13: Age
Life Transitions, Day 14: Expiry

Series Conclusion

Towards the beginning of November, I went on a two-week break.

Because I burned myself out at the top of September, resting and sleeping were my top priorities.

I also wanted to spend some time reading, journaling, and reflecting. I asked my mastermind and mentors for their thoughts as well.

While I was on break, I wanted to keep publishing daily. But I didn’t want to keep publishing on the music business. I wanted a break from that too.

So, I dreamed up the Life Transitions series. It’s something that came to me as I was driving between Abbotsford and Vernon. My thinking was also guided by the podcasts I was listening to on that journey.

Although I have certainly published on topics outside of music regardless, especially here on my personal blog, I needed to distance myself completely from my frustrations. And on some level, my frustrations were probably becoming apparent, because let’s face it – you can’t hide anything.

All that to say, thanks for indulging me.

I’m starting to home in on a publishing plan for my respective projects. I’m also looking more closely at how to integrate and make time for my various interests and passions each week.

Since I got into network marketing in 2011, I had always been taught to focus. And I couldn’t. Try as I might, it just didn’t work. I had both good moments and not so good moments, but inevitably I would revert to my old way of being. I’d keep generating new ideas, become excited about them, and end up wanting to pursue them.

Still, I always wondered what it would look like to be fully focused on one thing.

I guess I got a bit of a taste of that this year.

And all I can say is that I don’t think it’s in my DNA to have a singular focus. And even if it was in DNA, who’s to say I’d be any further along in any of my endeavors?

I think it’s even simpler than that. Others have certain gifts I don’t. I have certain gifts others don’t.

To paint either as right or wrong is to create a black and white world that simply doesn’t exist.

The fact that I have felt wrong for it, though, is on me. And I’m left to process that.

So, that’s what I mean when I say I’m refining my plan – my publishing plan, as well as my weekly plan.

Because I want the freedom of being able to work on a variety of projects. This is something I’ve done with or without deliberate intent anyway. So, maybe it’s true what one of my friends once said – “an elastic band always snaps back into place.”

But if any part of this series has caught your attention, please follow me. There’s always more where that came from.

Final Thoughts

I hope you enjoyed this series on life transitions. I hope it has helped you. I hope you’re starting to see how to handle difficult transitions, and how you can turn them into advantage, opportunity, or at the very least, become complete with them.

Completion is all you can ask for. And the good news is you can create it for yourself.

Whatever feeling you’ve been experiencing, whatever story has been going on in your head, it’s with you and no one else. This doesn’t mean you can’t have conversations with others to cause completion, because that may well be part of it!

But it does mean that you’re the only one responsible and capable of causing completion for yourself. Choose it and pursue it, especially if transitions have left you feeling beaten down. It’s worth the fight.

Thanks again for joining me and keep an eye out for a future series.

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Life Transitions, Day 14: Expiry

Life Transitions, Day 14: Expiry

There he was. Still on the hospital bed. Lifeless.

There was no way for a teenager to process what had just happened. But along with sadness came an odd sense of relief, too.

Something hadn’t sunk in just yet. But it was about to.

This is Life Transitions. Welcome to day 14.

Life Transitions Series

Life Transitions, Day 1 (Introduction)
Life Transitions, Day 2: Resistance
Life Transitions, Day 3: Jobs & Careers
Life Transitions, Day 4: Location
Life Transitions, Day 5: Relationships
Life Transitions, Day 6: When the Sandcastle Crumbles
Life Transitions, Day 7: Recovery
Life Transitions, Day 8: Pivots
Life Transitions, Day 9: Injury
Life Transitions, Day 10: Illness
Life Transitions, Day 11: Disaster
Life Transitions, Day 12: Upheaval
Life Transitions, Day 13: Age

Expiry Related Life Transitions

In this instance, expiry means death.

And death-related transitions occur when someone you know – typically a loved one – passes.

The “ultimate” transition is when you expire. And while I will give that some space a little later, it’s clearly a different kind of transition. One where “life” is no longer. Thus, it’s not a life transition at all.

An expiry related life transitions occurs when someone you know passes.

When your pet, friend, family member, or loved one expires, it’s normal to go through a range of reactions and emotions – shock, grief, numbness, sadness, anger, and more.

I don’t think there is a right or wrong in terms of how you react to, or how you process, death. Only, I do feel it’s important to feel whatever you’re feeling to the fullest without trying to numb and medicate it (more on that later).

Generally, in western cultures, when someone expires, we mourn. But in eastern cultures, it’s not unusual to celebrate.

Both are entirely valid ways of honoring a person or pet you dearly loved.

Although I’ve addressed this issue in an earlier story, some even say “I will never get over this.”

Death can be challenging to fathom. Maybe even impossible. Because it challenges the very thing we are – which is alive.

How to Handle Expiry Related Life Transitions

They say there are five stages of grief (which are 1) denial and isolation, 2) anger, 3) bargaining 4) depression, 5) acceptance), which can play out in any order, and move between one another.

Some say there are additional stages to grief. Some even say it’s a lifelong process.

Gaining an understanding of the various emotions you’re feeling as you’re feeling them is the most important part. Getting caught up in stages, or the “process” as it’s supposed to unfold, so far as I’m concerned, is less important.

And let’s be honest – grief doesn’t just rear its head when someone you know has passed. Sometimes, you can grieve over other events too, be it a breakup or the loss of a job.

What I find most useful is to sit with your emotions, allow them to play out, and to make it okay that you’re feeling whatever you’re feeling.

I have lost several friends and family members through the years – one of the most notable being my father.

And I know, all too well, the impact this had on my family. I felt it important to move forward, and though it was difficult, I began to find the strength to walk through a deep, dark valley of emotions to get to the other side.

But some of us never do. Because it’s too difficult. Too painful. And we don’t want to be reminded or to acknowledge what happened.

I don’t have easy answers. All I have are some thoughts.

Mourn Fully

If anyone has ever said to you “don’t cry”, or “be strong”, then they are robbing you of an important opportunity to grieve and to mourn fully.

What happens when you don’t mourn in the moment?

The energy gets stored in your body. And then it’s liable to arise in the least expected moments.

This isn’t to suggest you should force yourself to cry if you can’t cry. Don’t try to feel something if you’re feeling numb. There’s nothing wrong with you if you don’t react the same way others react.

So, the only thing to do is feel whatever it is you’re feeling fully. Instead of running from it, acknowledge it, and love it.

Because whatever you’re feeling can’t be found anywhere else. It can only be found in you. It’s not someone else’s to deal with. It’s your own.

Identify What You Have Yet to Process

Think about all the “I wish I would have said…” thoughts running around in your mind.

First, recognize that it’s not too late to express these thoughts. Because these thoughts are your own. They are not with the deceased. Which means there is always an opportunity to express yourself and to become complete with whatever happened.

For instance, you can write a letter. By doing so, you can process all your feelings and emotions, and say all the things you wished you would have said when your loved one was still alive.

I have done this exercise myself.

You can also imagine the loved one in your mind and see yourself talking to them. Sharing all the things that have been on your mind. All the things you wish you would have said.

You can’t find completion with anyone else. You can only create it for yourself. And it’s possible to do intentionally.

The Ultimate Transition

The ultimate transition is when each of us move on from this world to… whatever lies beyond death.

Although I’m sure I will find those who disagree, there is more than a preponderance of evidence to suggest that something indeed lies beyond this physical realm.

There are few (if any) religious or spiritual beliefs that don’t hold to the idea of an afterlife of some kind.

Remembering that many of these traditions and belief systems have been passed down through millennia, we can either throw the baby out with the bathwater or begin to embrace the wisdom of the ages.

Ask anyone who has recalled a near-death or clinical death experience, and inevitably they report moving towards a “bright light.”

We also know that there are those who claim to communicate with spirits, and have a massive following because of their ability to communicate spiritual truths.

Some even say they remember their past lives.

All I have done here is offer a surface level view of the evidence. You can easily go much deeper into the points mentioned, and even identify more.

Either way, this is the transition that’s waiting for us at the end of our time. But it’s not a life transition, at least not in the sense that we call our bodies life. It’s something else. Something more.

Expiry, Final Thoughts

Expiration can happen at a micro and macro level. The micro is you shedding a piece of yourself, moving into a new season, or embracing new life circumstances. Macro is when a pet or loved one passes.

Death can be challenging. We can mourn. We can celebrate. We can even do both. Whatever feelings arise, it’s only our job to acknowledge and love them. No need to try to fix or survive them.

I didn’t want this to sound like a how-to guide, which is why I haven’t offered a huge list of suggestions on how to handle expiry. We will handle it as we will. But if we can resolve it in the moment, we carry less of the burden with us.

I don’t know whether time is the great healer. But we always recover from transitions to varying degrees. The question is – how much of it are you willing to face?

Unless you have questions that need answering, the Life Transitions series is about to reach a conclusion. Let me know if there’s anything I missed.

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