Surrounding Yourself with Positive People in Your Music Career

Surrounding Yourself with Positive People in Your Music Career

Recently, I decided to take on a yearlong leadership program (technically, it’s two years, but that’s a whole other rabbit trail).

What were my best friends doing when I was about to join? Two were already in the program, and two more were about to join.

There wasn’t any peer pressure. There were three factors that ultimate got me in: 1) a competitive spirit, 2) feeling stuck in my career, and 3) the fact that one of my friends inspired me to join.

Of course, I can’t underestimate the influence of my friends, because, as you’ve surely heard before:

Birds of a feather flock together.

The truth is the influence of relationship is near impossible to overcome. If your friends are lazy, you’re lazy too. If your friends are broke and in debt, so are you. It almost always follows that you have the same traits and habits your friends have. You’re an average of those you hang around.

Looking at this with a sober mind is challenging because feelings always get in the way, but if you were to elevate your game, can you guarantee that those around you wouldn’t just pull you down like crabs in a bucket? Do you know that they’re not just going to come to you and ask, “What are you doing all that work for? Come be with us. Let’s hang out.” Because that’s usually what happens…

I’m not here to tell you what to do with your friends. I just want you to become conscious of the fact that, if you want more out of your career and life, you might need to take a cold, hard look at your association.

Artists often underestimate the influence of the people they’re surrounded by. They tend to care more about the optics of who they’re seen with versus what it might mean for their long-term success. I would encourage you to take a closer look at the people you’re surrounded by, their work ethic, and their mindset.

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Choose Your Association Wisely

Choose Your Association Wisely

In life, there are few influences as dominant as your association.

We could look at your top five friends and guess correctly that you are about the average of all of them.

We could look at your top five friends and guess correctly that you are about the average of all of them. Click To Tweet

You make about the same amount of money as them. And your attitudes towards politics, marriage, spirituality, and other important life matters are also the average of those around you.

Maybe you aren’t unlimited. But you also don’t know just how far you can go unless you’re surrounding yourself with people who consistently challenge you to be more.

If you’re feeling down or lacking motivation, take a close look at your association. Do you see any common themes?

Does your association leave you feeling devitalized? Are there emotional vampires lurking around every corner? Do the people you know keep crying about their victimhood and “special” circumstances?

Even if you’re the most virtuous person on earth, at some point, this is going to weigh on you. You can only be a hero for so long.

But the reality is this:

It has never been easier to associate with people who challenge you to go the extra mile.

I follow people on Twitter who inspire me.

I watch YouTube live streams hosted by eight-figure entrepreneurs.

I take courses from seven-figure lifestyle design coaches.

I read great books – and I don’t even pretend to know what they’re saying half the time.

I’m not here to tell you to change your association. Instead, I suggest prioritizing your association. Choosing the inputs that will make a difference for you short term, and long term. Because, while you may never reach the pinnacle, or even know your full potential, you will at least come away feeling like you can achieve more.

This is not the comparison game. If it were, I would not even make the finals.

This is your life. And your time is your most precious resource. Who do you want to spend it with?

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