There’s no need to reinvent the past.
In our efforts to look good or avoid looking bad, we often glance over our shortcomings and failures.
And we’ve got the best excuses too.
“It makes me look better in the eyes of my customers.”
“It just sounds better that way.”
See, the weird part about this is that no one can go back in your past and verify what happened.
Sure, there may have been bystanders. But like a game of telephone, these memories are often remembered differently by those involved.
It’s basically the entire premise behind Loudwire’s Wikipedia Fact or Fiction? where they repeatedly find Wikipedia entries that have errors in them.
I’ve often been transparent about my wins and shortcomings as well.
I’m not sure I can say the same for my peers in the same industry, who are always putting a spin on their stories… Exaggerating to make themselves look good.
What difference does your past ultimately make if, at the end of the day, you’ve made it? Why CAN’T you talk about the struggle?
The fact that you lie about your past makes me question you more.
All things being equal, I’d rather do business with someone who says it like it is instead of beating around the bush.
Because frankly, if you can’t tell the truth about your past, I don’t know what else you’re liable to lie about.
I could sit here and tell you that I’m a five-time self-published, three-time best-selling author. I could talk about the fact that I’m a CCM and Antidote featured musician who’s had an iTunes charting single overseas. Or I could even get into the fact that I’ve been podcasting for 11 years, making music for 24 years, and making websites for 25 years.
Sure, that’s the tip of the iceberg of what makes me awesome. But none of it has made me famous. It hasn’t turned me into a millionaire either. But I can be REAL about that. That’s the difference.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t talk about our victories. I also don’t think we need to go on and on about our sob stories. But we should be able to admit the things that sucked and say they sucked without feeling like that discredits us completely.
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And the worst part about reinventing your past is this…
You keep living in the past instead of embracing the future you’re stepping into.
Instead of focusing on the things you want, you end up focusing on the things you don’t want. All your creative energy ends up going towards polishing poo.
I get that my perspective is maybe a little controversial. A little contrarian. Going against the “wisdom” of positioning yourself as an attractive, capable, hero your fans and followers will love.
But to be honest, what makes heroes inspiring is not that they’re perfect…
It’s that they failed miserably and repeatedly and had to figure out how to gain mastery over themselves. It’s that they had to pick themselves up from defeat and say, “I don’t care how many times I get punched, I’m going to keep getting back up.”
THAT, to me, is rock and roll.
I don’t want to hear about your perfect life because I know it’s not real.
Shh… Don’t tell anyone. Only the cool kids are talking about it.
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