How you show up makes a difference.
It seems like an obvious discovery, but it remains elusive even to some of the best leaders out there.
We all have an automatic way of being. And that automatic way of being creates our world.
So, even when we show up to a meeting with different intentions, if we aren’t showing up differently, we will tend to repeat ourselves.
No matter how much pain is associated with creating the same, familiar outcomes, if we don’t have access to new ways of being, we won’t produce different results. It’s much more comfortable to “stick with the plan” than it is to rock the boat.
Your team is given by your way of being. So, when you show up the same way you’ve shown up for weeks, months, or even years, you shouldn’t be surprised to find you team take the same, familiar actions they’ve always taken, producing the same, familiar outcomes.
If we’re not careful, we can fall into depression over this. As leaders, we’re quick to blame ourselves.
Truthfully, we are at fault. But not in the way we might think.
The issue isn’t that we’re incompetent, hated by our team, discarded by God, or that we’re unlucky (although it doesn’t mean we aren’t some of those things).
The overarching issue is that we aren’t showing up differently than we have in the past. We are creating our world through our way of being.
Your life is given by your way of being.
How do you know when you’re showing up differently?
When you aren’t having the same conversations, you’ve always had. When you’re present to the opportunity and can communicate the vision to your team.
Shake off the monotony. Don’t succumb to “business as usual.”
Instead, create an intention for every meeting. Determine how you’re going to be showing up. Pay attention to the conversations you’re keeping alive that you no longer want to keep alive. Identify the new conversations you want to create newly.
Avoid repeating yourself. Always look to what you want to create next.
