Be, Have, Do

Be, Have, Do

Conventional wisdom says you need to do, have, and be to get anything in life.

First, act. Second, get. Third, have.

But if you’ve read enough personal development and spiritual books, then you know it works the other way around – be, have, and do.

The only problem is that this can seem a little abstract in practical reality.

What we must do is visualize and stand in the possibility of the outcome we’re creating. And we need to make that mental image as vivid as possible, with people, sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and touch. Most importantly, conversations! What words would be exchanged standing in the outcome you’re creating?

“Congratulations!”

“Great job!”

“We did it!”

That much you already know.

What we want to do with that visualization is be abundantly clear on what it looks like to be it. To be the transformation. We’re not trying to get anything yet. We’re just looking to understand how we can create that outcome as a way of being. Because you can be that now. And that way of being is going to produce the outcome.

Be, and then the having and doing will sort itself out.

Lenses

Lenses

We all see the world through certain lenses.

We didn’t necessarily choose our lenses, because it has a lot to do with encounters in early childhood and what we made those events mean.

In layman’s terms, our lenses can be summed up as confirmation bias.

Everywhere we go, everything we do, we’re always out to prove that our lenses are right – even when there’s no inherent value, advantage, or benefit.

My lens? That I don’t matter.

I came face to face with this lens today, while in conversation with my coach. And I can see its presence everywhere. What I didn’t notice before, I now see clearly, and I can’t un-see it.

I can see that I’ve gone through life with this lens and have only found more and more reasons to confirm it with every new task, program, project, business, community, or relationship I take on. I’ve collected a mountain of evidence for my lens.

In the coming weeks, I will be disappearing this lens with my coach.

What lens is running your life? What have you collected a mountain of evidence for?

Once you see it, you won’t be able to un-see it.

But to be free of it, first we need to see it.

Your Mindset is the Key to Your Success

Your Mindset is the Key to Your Success

Just a friendly reminder.

On the totem pole of priorities in achieving personal success, action ranks number three.

Conversations rank number two.

Mindset ranks number one.

And mindset isn’t about developing a will of steel.

It’s about looking at a person, event, or circumstance, which are inherently neutral, and saying, “I don’t know how, but this is going to work out in my favor. I don’t know why, but this is good.”

And when you do that, the universe responds in kind. It’s the mirror principle.

Want to work on your mindset?

Then watch this video via Quazi Johir:

What August Taught Me

What August Taught Me

This is more stream of consciousness than anything.

But I thought it would be worth reflecting on this past month, which was mostly dedicated to my working vacation and some local travel.

Here is what August taught me:

  • You need to be able to say “no” and not have it mean anything. Know when too much is too much and let others know when you’ve reached that point.
  • Time away can transform your home. By the time you’ve returned, you will see it with new eyes. As the late Wayne Dyer said, “change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” Returning home represents a good opportunity to begin appreciating what you have more.
  • When creating change in life, the best place to come from is a space of gratitude and appreciation. Things tend not to change when you feel like there is always somewhere else to get to, something better to be, something more to do. When you come from that space, you only attract more things to get, to be, and to do.
  • Leave the phone in the pocket and put it on vibrate. Turn off all but essential notifications. You don’t need constant reminders that you’re getting texts, messages, and emails, and nor does anyone else around you.
  • Enjoy the scenery. Smell the roses. Again, put away the phones and cameras and just be there.
  • People aren’t hearing what you aren’t saying. Are you speaking up and saying what needs to be said?
  • Empty your head. Get everything down on a yellow legal pad, notebook, or whiteboard. Action can wait.
  • When you’re asking yourself whether you should make a request of someone, the answer is almost always “yes.” Don’t give yourself more than 30 seconds to make up your mind and just do it.
  • Opulence may seem out of reach at times. But it can always be rented, especially in groups.
  • The beach you get to in the nick of time to enjoy the last hours of sunlight are better than all the “better” beaches you couldn’t possibly reach before nightfall.

Thanks for reading, champ!

Saying No

Saying No

We often feel guilty about saying no.

But at times it is necessary.

Others might take it the wrong way…

But that’s a risk we must take.

We’ve all been told “no” at times.

And sometimes we make a meaning out of it.

Although, without being in another’s head, there’s no way you can know their reasons for saying “no.”

Because we’re offended by a negative response, we vow never to say “no” to others – we don’t want to hurt them. And that’s not workable.

The truth is a negative response doesn’t matter so long as we don’t take it as “rejection.”

“No” often isn’t rejection. Timing is usually the critical missing piece.

Remember – your wellbeing is key. You’ve got to say “no” at times. It’s critical if you want to leave space for the best opportunities too.

So, let yourself say no when you need to.

Completion

Completion

Today marks the final day of the first quarter of the yearlong leadership program I’ve taken on.

Many of my thoughts and reflections are contained in the blog posts I’ve published over the course of the last two months or so.

My life has indeed transformed in the last two months. More so than I thought possible.

I did so many things kicking and screaming.

And I did so many other things diligently and faithfully to the point of exhaustion.

My two-week working vacation in Calgary ended up being essential. I don’t know where I’d be without it.

But the most amazing thing that came out of the program was bar none my team.

As I look forward to a new quarter, I’m reflecting on the results achieved and not achieved. Things completed and not completed. What I would like to accomplish next. And I am excited about the possibilities.