So long as we are living life, we are bound to encounter obstacles.
Therefore, it would be prudent to have a metal model or framework (even if simple), for facing and confronting delays, detours, and derails as they arise.
The first thing that’s crucial to understand is…
Events Are Always Neutral
We are quick to label everything as good, bad, right, wrong, like it, don’t like it, enjoy it, don’t enjoy it, and so on.
A specific event might feel good or feel bad to you. But the event itself is completely unaffected by any meaning you give it.
Which only means one thing:
You can make events mean whatever you want.
It’s Good to Adopt This Simple Mantra
Whenever something comes up that I might potentially perceive as bad, unlucky, unfair, or otherwise, I say to myself:
“I don’t know why, I don’t know how, but I know this is going to work out to my benefit.”
I might even say it out loud.
Again, with the context established that events are neutral, they always have the potential of working out to your benefit, even when it doesn’t seem like it.
For instance, you might desire a new job. But out of the blue, you end up losing your current job.
“This is horrible,” you say. “I don’t know what I’m going to do!”
But the universe might be creating a space from which you can get that new job, you see. Losing your job could be a necessary step to getting the job you desire.
The altitude of your success is determined by your attitude. So, maintaining a good attitude is key, especially if you believe in the law of attraction.
Delays Are Often Blessings in Disguise
Say what you will about Joel Osteen. I’m not here to discuss whether he is a “Godly” man or if his doctrine is right. But there is something valuable I learned from him, especially from his book, Your Best Life Now.
And that is this – delays are often blessings in disguise. Delays can lead to getting something better than you expected.
Let’s say you’re waiting on a promotion, and you end up getting passed up in favor of another employee.
The natural thing to do would be to get angry and frustrated. Maybe even confront your boss or rage quit your job.
But maybe, just maybe, there’s a new position being created by the higher-ups, and not only would it be a better fit for you, but it would also pay more!
Now, this is not always how things play out. Sometimes delays truly are little more than delays. But it’s a heck of a lot more fun to be in anticipation of a coming blessing than to be annoyed at a delayed flight, a hotel booking gone awry, or a date that stood you up.
Tonight, on the way home from a birthday celebration and a retreat into nature, I was forced on a detour due to a road closure.
I didn’t know my way around the city and ended up going down two or three roads before I finally found one that took me around the closure.
When I finally found my way back to the main drag, I still wasn’t sure of my surrounding, and ended up taking some roads up the hills and back into nature.
When I finally found my way back to the highway, I found I was not very far from home at all.
But there was still an impact.
The whole time, I was contemplating…
“I wonder what blessing I can expect from this delay?”
It’s time to unify over what is good and right for humanity.
And to set aside petty differences.
It has often been said that if you want to conquer, you must divide.
Friends, we are being divided. And I assure you, we are not being divided over life-or-death matters.
Our hard-earned liberties and freedoms are being tossed around like a stinky gym bag, and that’s not right. Can you honestly say you don’t care about your ancestors and all they fought for? All their sacrifices will be for naught if we don’t stand up.
You and I aren’t that different. We all come from the same place. We were all born of our mothers, and we all eliminate bodily waste the same way. The color of our skin makes no difference. It’s just a narrative-driven device to pit one against another.
Evil is coming at you whether you like it or not. It’s going to take everything you’ve got if you don’t stand up. It came to steal, kill, and destroy. And it’s starting to take ground.
Now is the time to stand up.
As human beings, we always find ways to justify our decisions.
“If anyone asks, this is what I’m going to say,” we say to ourselves. Because we’re far too afraid of looking bad, and when we don’t have answers, we think we look bad.
“Because God told me to” is the favorite catch-all, but also the ultimate copout. If you examine closely, you’ll realize it has nothing to do with God, but rather to do with what God has put in you. When you’re communing with yourself, you’re really communing with God. And so, we grow closer to God when we agree with ourselves. Because it is one and the same.
Which is why we’re at odds with ourselves when we say, “I feel like this is what I’m meant to do, I just don’t know yet. I’m asking God to make it clear.”
But truthfully, you’re just asking yourself and your subconscious mind to make it clear. Because God is in you, and you are in God. Answers will be forthcoming when you make the request and hold no doubt in your mind.
You don’t need to justify anything. You’ve chosen because you’ve chosen. Don’t worry about looking bad. Do what feels right to you. Then you will not be conflicted. You don’t want to be conflicted, because to be conflicted with yourself is to be conflicted with God. Being conflicted will only prolong the journey unnecessarily.
When we celebrate a birthday, are we celebrating new life and rebirth, or are we celebrating that we are one year closer to death?
It’s not that one is right, and the other wrong. But it is an area worthy of speculation because there’s an opportunity to create what you want, instead of kowtowing to societal norms.
In terms of celebrating new life and rebirth, it has long been understood that age is but a number. Everyone’s journey is unique, and there are no “milestones.” You can’t guarantee marriage by 18, kids by 25, a house with a white picket fence by 27, a golden retriever named Charlie by 28, and an executive level position by 30. It doesn’t work that way. Most journeys are wandering and circuitous.
40 isn’t any more significant than 30, and 30 isn’t any more significant than 20. It only is if we make it so. It has everything to do with how we create it. Not to mention, it’s not about how long you’ve lived – it’s about how much living you’ve put into your life.
So, another year is just another year. Look closely, and you will see that you don’t know your beginning any more than know your end. Which can only mean the present is infinite. It has to be.
When you were born, you were celebrated. Not by all, but by some. Why should that change just because you’re turning a new number? Couldn’t you celebrate the monumental event that was your birth?
In terms of celebrating being one year closer to death, this is our default way of celebrating birthdays. Even well wishes are often thinly veiled “I just hope you acknowledge my birthday next time,” “I’m not going to give you a gift, so here’s a shoutout on social media,” or worse, “I don’t like you and I wish you would die.” If you don’t know what I’m talking about, read yesterday’s post. There’s a clear contrast between the clean, filtered version of ourselves we present to society, and the real, down and dirty judgment we cast onto others and hold as truth (which is really just our perspective).
Look, this isn’t necessarily wrong. We don’t always celebrate death in North America (sometimes we do), but in other cultures they celebrate the transition. Yes, the “transition” is ambiguous and unknowable (often driven by what has been perpetuated by holy texts and scriptures), but it can be quite beautiful, especially if you create it as such.
Celebrating death can also be empowering in that there are things we wish to shed and transmute. Heartache, pain, difficulty, challenge, problems, trauma, and more. What if you took your birthday to let go and allow all that is? What if you made it your mission to stop resurfacing familiar pains and stories about yourself and what they meant, and instead created a new possibility, and a new world for yourself when your birthday arrived?
I’m not necessarily presenting solutions. But I’m asking. Which type of birthday do you want? What does a birthday really mean? Is it as consequential and monumental as we make it out to be? Or is it just a part of this thing we call life? And would we enjoy ourselves more if we just thought of ourselves as ourselves, not as a number?
You are. That’s all there is. Everything else is just made up.
On July 28, 2021, I made the commitment to publish daily for a full year.
Tomorrow, I will have fulfilled on that promise.
And if I’m being perfectly honest, I published as many as four times on some days. That may not be evident from the archives, but if you go looking across Music Entrepreneur HQ, Music Industry How To, MIDINation, Medium, News Break, and Steemit, you’ll see what I’m referring to.
I seriously considered whether to continue for another year. That’s how rewarding this process has been. But I’ve come to see it’s not in full alignment with what I’m up to creating in the world right now.
First and foremost, it’s time for a bit of a break. Though publishing daily, on average, only takes about an hour per day, in some ways it has basically consumed my attention and mind space.
Aside from that, it’s time to get into action concerning key endeavors – especially the leadership and management program I’m currently taking, musical projects, books, and my new membership (to be added to Content Marketing Musician).
This is all basically just a teaser, though, because I’ll be bringing the full scoop to you tomorrow. Keep an eye out for it!
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Chances are this is where you’re due for a breakthrough.
And it’s going to take something to identify whatever is there for you.
And then it’s going to take something to share it with someone. But sharing is essential, because if you don’t admit your inauthenticity to someone else, you’re bound to stay marinating in it.
But when you finally do share your inauthenticity, a great sense of relief and freedom will come over you, and it will be worth it. You’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.
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